In this blog, we’re diving into a topic that hits close to home for many women: menopause. This phase of life can feel like stepping into uncharted waters, with emotional ups and downs, physical changes, and psychological realizations all colliding at once. For me, this was the first wave of the “trifecta” I discuss in my book Midlife Marvels—menopause, retirement, and the empty nest phase. I explore menopause in more detail in the chapter titled “What Is Happening to My Body?”
As Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “Women are like tea bags. We don’t know our true strength until we are in hot water.” And let me tell you, menopause can certainly feel like that hot water—testing your resilience, your patience, and your strength. But here’s the thing: you are not the sum of your setbacks. You are the hero of your relentless comebacks.
The Emotional Roller Coaster of Menopause
Menopause is a vulnerable time in a woman’s life. The emotional ups and downs, the mood swings—it can feel like you’re on a roller coaster you never asked to ride. One moment you’re fine, and the next, you’re crying at a commercial or snapping at your loved ones for no apparent reason. These emotional shifts are not just frustrating—they can leave you feeling unbalanced and overwhelmed.
The Physical and Psychological Shifts
Let’s not forget the physical changes. Whether it’s hot flashes, weight gain, or sleepless nights, these symptoms can be confusing and unsettling. You might find yourself asking, What is happening to my body? These changes are a natural part of the process, but they can still be challenging to navigate.
Then there’s the psychological aspect—the realization that your reproductive years are coming to an end. It’s natural to feel a sense of loss or anxiety about this phase of life. For many, it’s a stark reminder of mortality, which can stir up feelings of uncertainty.
A Shift in Perspective: Finding New Strength
But here’s the silver lining: menopause is also an opportunity. It’s a time to reflect, adapt, and find new sources of strength and joy. Yes, this phase comes with challenges, but it also offers a chance to reset and reprioritize your well-being. It’s a time to rediscover what brings you happiness, and how you can take care of your mind, body, and spirit moving forward.
Coping Skills and Self-Care: Navigating Menopause with Grace
So how do we navigate this phase with grace and resilience? One of the most powerful tools is physical activity. Whether it’s a brisk walk around the neighborhood, a yoga session, or dancing like no one’s watching in your living room, moving your body can help stabilize your mood and keep those endorphins flowing.
Another tool I’ve found incredibly helpful is setting goals and journaling. Writing down your thoughts and feelings can provide clarity and help you process the changes you’re experiencing. It’s a form of self-expression that allows you to reflect on what’s happening inside and make sense of the emotional landscape.
Embracing Joy in the Little Things
In the midst of all the changes, don’t underestimate the power of simple pleasures. A hot bath at the end of the day can be a soothing ritual that calms your mind and relaxes your body. Or maybe turning on your favorite music and dancing around the living room is what lifts your spirits.
Finding solace in a creative hobby can also be a source of joy. Whether it’s painting, crafting, or writing, these activities allow you to tap into your creativity and focus on something outside of yourself. They’re not just pastimes—they’re vital for your well-being during this phase of life.
The Importance of Hobbies During Menopause
Speaking of hobbies, they play an essential role in navigating menopause. Let’s break down some important activities you can integrate into your life during this time:
- Mindfulness: Living in the moment can help you appreciate the here and now, reducing anxiety and stress.
- Fitness: Staying active is crucial for both physical and mental health. It improves mood, boosts energy, and helps you stay strong.
- Art: Whether it’s painting, photography, music, or literature, artistic expression allows your mind to stay creative and explorative.
- Learning: Continuous learning keeps your mind sharp. It could be as simple as picking up a new book or taking an online course—anything that keeps your thoughts expansive.
- Kindness: Be kind to others, but also to yourself. Treat yourself with the same compassion you would offer a friend during challenging times.
Closing Thoughts: You Are Stronger Than You Think
Menopause is a natural part of life, but it doesn’t define you. It’s just one chapter in your story, and you have the power to write the rest of it with strength, grace, and resilience. You are not alone in this journey, and together, we can navigate it with wisdom and courage.
Remember, you are not just surviving menopause—you are thriving through it. Take care of yourself, embrace the marvels of midlife, and trust that you have the strength to navigate whatever life throws your way.